Mindset
hard work is the key to success
The main role for a parent is to actively assist with red tape and to instill a practice of self-regulation while exploring the child’s natural passions but avoiding the pitfalls of superimposing excessive preparation, personal biases, and time suckers.
Red tape and gate keepers are the biggest obstacle for children, even high schoolers. Navigating without a Savvy Parent will leave your child’s fate and path for the future in the hands of those with other priorities. Learning how the world works is part of the process but many activities must be done by a parent or teacher. If those activities aren’t already part of the child’s school it may not be available to that child on their own. Children are at the mercy of their parents, educators, and coaches.
A self-regulated passionate child works hard naturally but parents create the environment that makes this possible. Setting a schedule, regulating time suckers, and making exploration part of the at home process whether you are a Public School, Private School or Home School parent. Teaching, self-regulation from an early enough age that the child grows into a full understanding as to why it’s beneficial is key.
Being Attentive to the child’s natural affinity through a gamut of deliberate activities. Exploring, through trial and error to find the child’s natural passions is a process a parent beings as early as preschool. From noticing whether the child is a visual learner, loves to read, loves history or is a hands-on learner will make a difference as the child moves through the process of learning and exploring.
Discuss openly the progress of education and the domino effect or butterfly effect of each step. Using diagrams and visuals of the flow of education. What a bachelor’s degree is and how one must have a bachelors before they can obtain a master’s degree. Children, even teens, only know how the world works if you tell them.
Openly discuss WHY rather than using, “because I said so.”

Directed Hard Work is the cornerstone to success.
Intelligence and ability aren’t stagnant. Becoming the best student a child can be takes training in much the same way it does for an athlete, a ballerina or musician. In all these situations it helps to have potential, but potential only takes a child so far. Stop praising natural potential and start praising the hard work.
New studies in the realm of I.Q. have determined that there is as much as a 20% change in I.Q. in the formative years leading up to the late teens. In these studies the physiological structure of the brain changes with use. In other words it is possible to exercise your brain. (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/memory-medic/201805/no-your-iq-is-not constant#:~:text=For%20any%20given%20individual%2C%20the,in%20verbal%20and%20movement%20functions.)


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